How to Pretend to Like Yourself. “I am enough”

How to pretend to like yourself

Have you ever thought, “I don’t like myself”? Well, sure you have and, believe me, you are not the only one.
There are many logical answers you can give yourself as an answer to the question. But, also, there are a lot of illogical questions and answers that can lead from that.

Let’s look at a few of the main reasons one would ask themselves a question like that.

Doctor Leah Benson is a Licenced Mental Health Consultant that has a three-point system of answers to the question.
Why is this happening?

Pretend to Like Yourself – The Reasons

The first major reason for this question is the social pressure inflicted on our everyday decisions and actions. Dr Benson places it as “not following the rules”.

Of course, this is a serious issue for people who cannot conform to a specific social rulebook. Things like correctly talking, eating, walking, dressing, and etiquette can make a person feel alienated.

Another side of this is not living up to one’s expectations. Again, this could be portrayed in a family scenario and an educational facility scenario.

The second major reason is not following your heart and gut.
This one is more or less connected to the expectations that are forced upon third social parties.
Nevertheless, its effect on your brain has its own function.
Because you don’t listen to your heart or gut, you often feel like you Are doing everything wrong. As a result, you disregard great accomplishments like they are everyday chores.
You feel like nothing is worth the time or energy to start and finish. It’s like nothing makes sense.

The third reason is a mixture of the first two.
You follow the signs that your heart and gut give you, but they contradict the social rules.
Obviously, this leaves you feeling like you’re bound and obligated to follow the rules, even though you know you shouldn’t.
After that, It’s just questioning the authenticity of your life.

Pretend to Like Yourself

Ok, now what?
It is not easy to face yourself and admit you want to start liking yourself because you feel it unnatural.
The sensation of not being a big fan of yours has been there for so long that you can’t figure out a world in which you feel good in your skin.
But, there is hope, and here are five tips that could help with the transition.

Accept Failure. Understand that failing is a natural and much-needed aspect of our lives. Without failing, you don’t learn how to get up and start again. Think and embrace your weaknesses.

pretend to like yourself

Bask in the audience
Relax, sit back and revel in your accomplishments. Nobody is going to do it for you, and you deserve to be acknowledged.
It doesn’t matter If they are accomplishments from a couple of years ago.
Everything that makes you feel good is good for you.

Make fun of yourself
Stand in front of the mirror and just have a crack at it. There is an exercise where you go in front of the mirror every morning, and you make the goofiest smile or face that comes to you.
Don’t only mock yourself, compliment yourself. Maybe your hair today isn’t that bad; perhaps you like your eyes or smile. It’s not all that bad, is it?

Go on a date with yourself
Spending quality time with yourself is crucial. Treat yourself in the way that you want others to treat you.
Have a great meal, drink good wine, go to the cinema by yourself-you deserve it.

Comprehend that no one is perfect!
Take it easy on yourself and accept imperfection – lower your standards towards yourself!
No one is as perfect as you think they are. Try not to adopt someone else’s lifestyle to improve yours – you are great just the way you are, and everything will be just fine.

Pretend to Like Yourself -Final Thoughts

There are many reasons why you should like yourself. You will find that you will be able to get a lot more done in a lot less time, be more productive at work and school, make better decisions about your life goals, increase the likelihood of achieving success with no regrets… the list goes on!

The next step? Just fall in love with yourself (literally). It really does not matter if other people do or not; just find something about yourself that makes you happy and focus on bringing out those qualities into your everyday routine.

And then repeat after me –“I am enough.”

Then, say it again until you believe it!

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6 months ago

This post resonates with me! Only a few short years ago I realized one day that I didn’t like myself. I saw that I had internalized all the negative messages I had received through words and actions of others, all the lies I had come to believe were true, but in fact weren’t. I realized that I needed to teach myself to like myself!

It felt very unnatural, creepy almost, to speak kind words to myself and to find positive affirmations that I could actually believe!

I studied about the concept of Neural Pathways and learned that we become so negative about ourselves because of thoughts repeated hundreds, if not thousands of times so that the Neural Pathways became highways, and an automatic go-to for our brains!

Conversely, I learned that if we practice speaking kind and gentle thoughts to ourselves, eventually we can rewire our brains!

The old negative thoughts gradually fade away from disuse while the positive ones get stronger and stronger!

I have been practicing and teaching these awesome lessons to help people who are ready to make the inner change!

Blessings to you!

Karen Blake

5 months ago

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Your words are so true. Well done on your journey to awakening.


5 months ago

Thanks so very much! I appreciate your kind words!

Karen Blake

5 months ago

You are so very welcome. Keep in touch Tamara


5 months ago

My pleasure! ????????????

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